Dating Advice For The Frustrated Girlfriend
I know this subject of ‘text my boyfriend’ is so hard when dating a man!
You want to connect with your boyfriend, and so you initiate contact and send him off a sweet/short/thoughtful/interesting/important/relevant “boyfriend text.”
Surely if he’s your boyfriend, he’ll appreciate YOUR text, since YOU are DIFFERENT from the other former girlfriends/current people in his life. Right?
Surely he’ll appreciate you saving him time by initiating contact with him. Right?
And SURELY in the world of texts to send to your boyfriend, yours are SPECIAL, and he will DESIRE them to get him through his day just like the high you get from creating and sending him your well-crafted texts. Right?
Men don’t read it like that.
Men just see your text, without reading it sometimes, and think, “Wow. She’s needy of me. She can’t get through her day without putting me first. That makes her dependent on me. Too much pressure. Yuck.”
Another man might see your text and think, “Wow. She’s aggressive. I guess she wants me bad. Maybe I’ll call her up some night when I need a sexual distraction.”
A different guy would see your text and your move to initiate contact and think, “Can’t she leave me alone while I work/see my kids/exercise? Dang. Get a life.”
If you live in masculine energy as a woman, yes, you will want to initiate contact with him, and that will always be a problem in love. Masculine energy on you in the land of romance equals zero boyfriend appeal.
Not in work. Just in romance.
Feminine energy has no desire to figure out how to initiate contact because there’s no WANT to initiate contact.
Masculine energy wants to initiate contact, hunt, get, acquire, seduce.
That’s his job. That’s his preference.
Your focus is to find another way to love you.
If you take that away from him, he will either distance or put you in the friends with benefits or friend zone category.
If you are reading this blog post in masculine energy, you will fight back over these texting rules dating stuff.
So is this a texting RULE for dating you might be thinking?
It’s dating advice information that is tested, proven and works every time.
You can challenge it, experiment and see if it works for you–check the results.
Masculine men don’t want a masculine-energy woman. He wants you with girly energy.
How to be the woman a man wants, aka Boyfriend Appeal, is for you to live in feminine energy when you are around him.
Where you are SO COMFORTABLE living in feminine energy that you can wait for him to approach you.
You can be happy and content in your life and put yourself first—UNTIL he shows up in front of you in person, by phone or by text.
THEN you can be all about him.
Please watch my video on this topic here.
I know when you want a boyfriend’s attention, it’s easy to convince yourself to just reach out to him.
You wonder, “Does he still like me?” and then you feel the urge to initiate contact and send him any text. That text is (if you’re honest) to reassure yourself that he still loves you if he responds.
And…that’s very masculine energy.
You’re also disrespecting his masculine energies.
Spiritually, it’s like you are going to the Divine to say, “Hey God energy, you aren’t moving fast enough for me, and I can’t relax or trust in this process, so I’m just going to move this “boyfriend” along and get what I need. He’s stupid/shy/traumatized from his childhood (or I know better), and he just needs a push.”
You have to understand your push is a huge enough push energetically to push him away from you.
Is that what you want?
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