Relationship Tips For Women Moving Dating Online To Offline
You finally work up the nerves to do online dating just like some other singles out there.
Or, you work up the resolve and hope to go back to dating online and forget the dreadfulness the first go around when seemingly no online dating tips would have made a difference.
Now you have developed not just an online relationship from online dating, but he’s turned out to be a great guy…a possible boyfriend…and yes, it was from online dating.
Some single women still believe that they can have a romantic relationship through online dating even though it seems like a relationship test.
Without great relationship advice, love relationships can feel scary even when you have found the so-called perfect guy online.
You’ve gone out a few times…the dating is great. It looks like it could be a healthy relationship! It’s overwhelming that you cannot find any flaws, relationship issues or sign of any common relationship problems during the course of your dating.
Then you feel yourself falling in love. And your dating relationship with him feels so awesome and you see that you could have trust in relationship with him. You find it so endearing that you are both really in a relationship that is real and happy.
That’s always the game changer isn’t it? That moment you fall in love with him.
That is when, maybe the next day even, you start to want more and expect more from him. You begin to ask yourself what is relationship, or life without him.
Then the trust relationship is starts to go downhill.
That’s when your new set of expectations come out and often it’s because you’re admitting, “Hey, I really, really like this guy and this relationship could go somewhere.”
Then the start-up of a good relationship slowly heads towards… suspicions and “what ifs”.
What if he’s dating others?
What if he doesn’t feel the same way I do?
What if… OH NO…what if he still has his profile up at Match?
Off you go to Match to investigate and sure enough there’s his profile!!!!
ERGH!
What does THAT mean?
Is he a player? Is he a cad? Is he forgetful? Is he not into you? Is he using you?
All of these questions come out rapid fire in the mental monstrosity known as your mind and man crack.
The thoughts destroy you, occupy way too much of your time and like a crack addict you’re out of control.
Just a while ago you were happy go lucky with the guy until that day you decided you wanted him so much that if you lost him…you’d perish. Your life would end.
This is when a broken relationship trust arises and you can see some signs of relationships problems transpire. Suspicion is one of the factors why unhealthy relationships happen to couples.
Now sometimes it’s not all in your mind; it’s your intuition telling you he’s still dating.
Him dating is not a bad thing if you both haven’t had a conversation about “let’s not date others”.
Please watch my video on this topic here.
So how do you know if it’s your intuition or your overactive mind thinking things that aren’t there?
The guy and his actions.
Like I said in the video, a great guy, a great boyfriend will be coming towards you (calling, asking you on dates, making plans and sticking with them) and saying nice things, but more action than words.
In the video I shared some relationship advice and dating tips regarding online dating.
The relationship tips that I’ve imparted will surely make you realize that you’re not worthy of an insincere man and the time you have for him is not worth it.
So reserve yourself for the best man. This is the best relationship advice I can give to all women experiencing similar situation.
Talk is cheap from a man.
A guy just saying “love” words and no love actions…he’s not that into you and it doesn’t matter if his online dating profile is still up. My dating advice? You need to keep dating.
A guy who is really into you — you don’t even think that he’s acting shady anywhere else. You know that he’s into you.
Yes, until there’s talk of exclusivity (ring or living together instead of legal wedding papers), technically he and you will date others, even though your heart may be with him.
But with a great guy and a good healthy relationship, you two will probably talk about the online dating profiles before it becomes an issue.
I’m Christine Rich Hanson and I do relationship counseling, giving relationship advice for women and relationship tips for women. My advice on relationships will guide you on how to handle different situations and strengthen your wisdom on how to react towards any relationship issues.
My dating advice for women is always sealed with love, understanding and thoughtfulness.
Please share and comment below…
I wish I knew all that earlier! All you said is absolutely true and realistic,not “theories”! I have invested 3 years of my life believing love words(RARE love words) and see no love actions..and thinking all this is more than I deserve! Now,I move on not sure I will find more than that but at least I will try! 3years is a long time! And I blame none,it was my responsibility! Thank you Christine!
Thanks so much Joy.
We’ve all been there caught up on a man’s love WORDS and not knowing that we should be into his love ACTIONS.
A lesson for all of us women!!
Best,
Christine
Hi I dont understand. I have met a guy, he wants to see me again. He has been phoning and skyping lives four hours away. He is still active on his profile and it really doesnt feel right to me. I have told him I am not into casual sex and he said that he is not sexual with anyone and has friends. but he is clearly still looking elsewhere… I feel confused.
Hi Lee,
Let your woman’s intuition rule on this one. If he is 4 hours away…sorry, but the odds of that developing into a love relationship (with or without sex) are so low it is near impossible. Keep dating and decrease your contact with him. If he wants to do all the driving and move to you, that’s one thing, but this is way too casual.
Hugs, Christine
I chatted w a guy online for 5 months…one day I searched info abt him and found out…he has a gf….and is planning a wedding. I asked the truth and he got mad with me…he firstly refused to tell the truth…until he said: it was u who were interested to me so I communicated w u daily….
OMG….men oh men….can’t they be faithful?
Hi Angel,
First of all thank you for sharing! I am helping women and this is a great reason…it’s so easy to assume a guy is interested when in fact he has a secret life. That’s why if he can’t be around you often and in a big way, we need to move on.
Glad you’re here, Angel.
Best,
Christine
I’m dating a guy for a month or so i know totally …new still I don’t want too push or nag or online dating profile. is still Active he has four kids, and works two jobs .I’m pretty sure not dating. I honestly, think he’s lazy and logs. on our schedules are tough but we manage too spend time together he’ll even miss sleep too in between jobs so he can see me . So when Do I talk of “your profile is active. It’s still new so I don’t want too push or scare off..those sites are addicting but i still want too know…….accidentally fell asleep once, no call or no show which i understand raising 4 kids, and two jobs..I just want your advice is he dating other or isn’t? he’ll text me everyday, but i still see the login within 24 hr and its driving me nuts.
Hi Dana,
One month is too soon.
See how much quality time he spends with you. Texts are easy. Time matters.
Hugs,
Christine