4 Dating Tips For Finding & Dating Men: A New Perspective On How To Find True Love
It’s weird, isn’t it?
You can live in a town with men all over the place, and yet you can’t find a guy to date.
And you want to date. Well, maybe not date as much as find the ONE man you can be with forever.
How to get the ball rolling to get a guy to date.
Even in New York City, single women there think there are no men to date. Millions of guys–nobody to date.
So right off the bat, do you see how that type of thinking isn’t going to help you?
The dating process seems hard, complicated, takes too long and sometimes make your skin crawl if the guy feels not-your-type.
And you want to give up. I get it. But, with a mental shift, your reality changes.
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In the land of romance, a little flame burns inside, and you try to push aside the few times you’ve been burned dating men and muster the courage to feel hopeful and get back out there.
And it seems then you switch from all the bad dates mentality to “I’m gonna find me a man” mentality.
Off you go. At the grocery store, you’re scanning for every guy and looking for a wedding ring. At the park, you peruse the face of the approaching male jogger for a “did you notice me?” look.
At the bar, you are looking over the room and studying each man for his potential suitor qualities and deciding who would be worthy of more looks throughout the night to check him out.
At the end of the evening or trip to the store, it seemed that nothing panned out.
You feel dejected. Going home, you tell yourself, “Forget it. There aren’t any guys to date.”
That mental cycle starts again.
We need to interrupt that cycle.
Let me point out something that will have, hopefully, a large shift for you.
Your scanning actions of looking for men in a public area is masculine. That is what men do. A man can walk into a room and check out every female in less than 5 seconds. If you are checking out men, a guy will pick up that energy as masculine.
He’s looking for feminine. He doesn’t want a dude in a dress.
Yes, it’s that subtle. Your body language, your mental energy your focus can all be picked up. By a man.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been in a public place so involved in what I was doing that I was startled when a man approached me to flirt and ask me out.
That is the key.
Don’t be on the hunt. Let the men hunt. Instead, you are into you. Be into your life.
If you have an errand, focus on that with delight. Yes, if you have a calm yet light quality, that energy is like a loud bell to a man on the hunt signaling to pay attention to you.
If you are on an errand and in a mad rush and possible agitated mood, he will see you and bypass you. Too close to masculine energy for him in the realm of romance.
If you are searching with a neediness or “do you see that I’m available?” it’s energetically too pushy. It’s similar if you go try on a dress in a store, step to see yourself in the mirror and before your eyes can check out your image a sales girl pounces with a loud, “Oh you have to get that dress!”
Yes, maybe you would have arrived at the point of wanting to get the dress, but she interrupted your natural flow, and her push sent you reeling backward.
It is the same for men. If you check him out first before he gets to check you out, he averts his eye. It’s instinctual.
From a Law of Attraction viewpoint, if you go out and look for men to date and dwell on your disappointment in the lack thereof, you will mentally validate your assertion “there are no men to date.” It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Is this making sense? There are men out there to date. It’s just that your efforts to find them are repelling guys in split second energy.
The goal is not to scan, search, or hope/pray. Instead, love you and your errand or fun activity, as I said, that is a loud bell ding-dong to a man on the prowl.
By doing this method, you stop feeling like you want to give up on dating and you’ll get more guys by not trying to get a guy.
It’s the path of least resistance. Follow it and watch the magic happen!
How about you? Have you ever been minding your own business in public and a guy approached you and you hadn’t even noticed him before he walked up?
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