How to react to his first date gift!
The ideas for first date gifts from the man may feel awkward to you at the first date! Decades ago, it was the norm. A considerate guy brought you a small gift on the first date. You would be delighted. But times have changed! That first date gift idea of his could ruin his kind intention because it might come off as too much too soon.
Now we live in a time when women are more in masculine energy, and a gift on a first date feels off-putting like something is wrong with him!
However, you can’t roll that way. Not in the Law of Romance. Despite what the first date gift idea was, you need to graciously accept it, because it’s not whether you like the object, it’s that you don’t reject him for his paying attention to you.
Think carefully about that. A year from now, when the newness of the relationship has waned, you will give anything to have a gift from your man just for showing up to be on a date.
A thoughtful guy may think for days in advance of gift ideas to surprise and delight you with on the first date. Give him points for his effort, planning, and selection. That is what men do with their Boyfriend DNA.
Reverse it: can you imagine your dilemma of finding a gift for a first date when you don’t know the guy at all? Of course, I don’t advise you to ever bring a gift to a guy on the first date, or any date, or he will feel awkward and slow fade.
Before I further discuss the things you don’t like on a first date regarding his romantic ideas to get your attention such as a first date gift to woo you,
I want you to take a minute and watch this video here.
Besides being through the roof funny, here are some interesting take-aways.
Notice that the man (okay, a boy—but representative of ALL MEN) is clueless.
Yes, your guy wants to please you and, he has no idea what he’s doing or should do, so he guesses “yes” often.
As a woman, know that. He’s trying to please you.
Many a first date gift has been brought to a woman, and the thought goes immediately in you to what’s wrong instead of “how thoughtful of him.”
“The flowers look like they’ve been sitting out of the water all day.”
“He makes a ton of money, and these flowers came from the grocery store.”
“He got me perfume. What?! That’s too big of a gift, and he doesn’t know what I like. Maybe he’s going to be a stalker boyfriend.”
“Chocolates? It’s not Valentine’s Day. Who brings chocolates on a first date? This is awkward.”
The first date is where first impressions begin. It is better to know that you made such an impression on him, that you activated his Boyfriend Brain before the date just from your communication! He thought, “I’d better step it up and bring a first date gift!”
Now, to have Boyfriend Appeal, you need to step into your feminine energy. You have to know how to accept men…Especially on first dates when he may feel that he’s out on a limb of the rejection tree.
Your energy is to be open, warm and accepting of him.
He Didn’t Bring You Flowers
Now even if you are awesome and the lead-up conversations to the first date were spot on great, he may be a little clueless about bringing a gift, or, he might have thought about it but didn’t want to feel rejection.
If there’s no gift, your attitude should be “no problem” and stay open, warm and appreciative.
He Did Bring You Flowers
I know plenty of women who cringe at getting flowers from a guy…Or any gift on the first date.
You saw in the video how six-year-old Janet lit up over the romantic date idea of receiving flowers and chocolates in a heart shaped box.
If he is super masculine energy, you will most likely get a little mushy and love it. If he’s not so masculine, the first date gift idea of his might feel uncomfortable, but try to be open and see how the rest of the date evolves.
Don’t let flowers (or a box of chocolates as Janet in the video said) be a turn-off or cringe worthy, because every woman I know, down the road with their man WISHES he’d bring her flowers or chocolates from time to time!
A gift is an object.
Your job is to connect not with the object but with the man’s heart who had the intention to bring something to you to make you feel happy.
How about you? Did you ever get a first date gift and cringed only to wish later that you hadn’t?
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