Facebook And Relationships…What A Girlfriend Needs For Successful Relationships
Thinking about a boyfriend’s Facebook relationship status can be a hot button for you as a girlfriend. Your dating “needs” for your boyfriend to do something with his Facebook relationship status may increase depending on how far along you are with him.
You may want him to take a step–a public step– such as a Facebook announcement as a precursor to an engagement. You may see so many of your friends with these tags of “with” and status proclamations that you start to feel left out or that there’s something wrong with you and your guy.
In the scheme of human life, it’s understandable.
My take? I don’t want that little bit of digital information about the relationship status on Facebook to drive you into feeling less than or not good enough or blow the budding relationship!
Let’s say that you want the guy you’re dating to change his Facebook relationship status to “In A Relationship” or “With…” early in the dating process– as in less than three months in because you already feel like a couple.
I’ve seen women feel very upset if it doesn’t change because they feel “it’s time.”
Of course, to most guys, three months, even nine months, is just too soon for them to know what they want to do with you long term. They may know how much they love you early, but they may not be ready to announce it to their Facebook friends and cyberspace.
Changing that status on Facebook is going to cause quick attention from his friends and family, which comes with a lot of probing, awkward questions. And you know that guys dislike confrontation so many a fellow feels like, “hey, why should I invite confrontational inquiries?” They need to be brimming with confidence to handle it.
Now that doesn’t mean that he’s not confident about the two of you. It’s sort of like a person being knowledgeable about topics around their career but not feeling confident to stand on a public stage and give a speech about those topics.
Your guy may be a more private person. Or he may not even relate to a Facebook status change as something he needs to do.
It’s best for a healthy relationship in the long run to lay the foundation for a good relationship by not pressuring him. Guys love women more quickly when there’s no pressure.
Releasing any expectation that he announces to the Internet world that you and he are together is a great start. I know that it may be tough for you, but if you work with releasing the expectation, it will help your relationship.
And my biggest dating advice is to have you realize that releasing your expectation that he has to do something leads to him feeling accepted by you–and that’s big.
Expectations are one-sided. They don’t serve your relationship well especially when the expectations are self-serving. Making you happy at the expense of your love guy’s happiness, won’t bring more love to your budding relationship.
My dating advice is always: what is the QUALITY of your boyfriend? Does he adore you or is he difficult to find? Do you feel amazing around him or do you feel anxious?
Is your boyfriend engaging, smart and there for you? If that sort of guy isn’t changing his status on Facebook, no worries!
Please watch my video on this topic here.
If you feel desperate to Just. Get. Him. To. Say. You. Are. A. Couple to everyone (especially his family and friends) remember that boyfriends don’t care about that stuff as much as you. See this article I did on that subject here.
Now if you are feeling sad that he hasn’t changed his relationship status over there on Facebook, and you find yourself, checking it daily (or hourly!) – I want you to stop. You are creating a habit that can only cause or magnetize more negativity.
However, I know from coaching women, that you may have such a burning desire to get him to change the status that you are tempted to work up the courage and blurt it out.
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How about you? Have you ever begged your guy to change his Facebook status and it ended in an argument? Comment below please.
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