Facebook And Relationships…What A Girlfriend Needs For Successful Relationships
Thinking about a boyfriend’s Facebook relationship status is a hot topic for you as a girlfriend. Your dating “needs” for your boyfriend to do something with his Facebook relationship status may increase depending on how far along you are with him.
My take? I don’t want that little bit of information of the relationship status on Facebook to drive you into feeling crazy!
Let’s say that you want the guy you’re dating to change his Facebook relationship status to “In A Relationship” or “With…” early in the dating process– as in less than 3 months in.
I’ve seen women feel very upset if it doesn’t change…fast.
Of course to a guy, 3 months, even 6 months, is just too early for them to know what they want to do with you long term. They may know early how much they love you, but they may not be ready to announce it to their Facebook friends.
Changing that status on Facebook is going to cause quick attention from his friends and family, which comes with a lot of probing, awkward questions.
Questions that your boyfriend may not want to deal with before he knows what he wants with you or not want to deal with in general because he’s a more private person.
It’s best for a healthy relationship in the long run to lay the foundation for a good relationship by not pressuring him. Guys love women more easily when there’s no pressure.
Releasing any expectation that he announces to the Internet world that you and he are together is a great start and sage dating advice. Expectations are one-sided. They don’t serve your relationship well especially when the expectations are self-serving. Making you happy at the expense of his happiness, won’t bring more love to your budding relationship.
My dating advice is always: what is the QUALITY of this boyfriend? Does he adore you or is he difficult to find? Do you feel amazing around him or do you feel anxious? Is he engaging, smart, and there for you? If that sort of guy isn’t changing his status on Facebook, it’s not a sign that he doesn’t love you.
Does he talk a good game but is never around? That guy will never change his Facebook status and I don’t want you to care if he does.
I want you in those situations to move on to date another guy who does want to show up in front of you, cherishing you, because that is a good relationship.
Please watch my video on this topic here.
Now you might be a woman who doesn’t want your boyfriend to announce to the world that you both are in a relationship on Facebook’s timeline as you are a private person.
If you feel desperate to Just. Get. Him. To. Say. You. Are. A. Couple to everyone (especially his family and friends) remember that boyfriends don’t care about that stuff as much as you. See this article I did on that subject here.
You may know that Internet PDA isn’t your thing. You may seek a healthy relationship first before you have the confidence to broadcast the evolving situation.
You may also discover that a guy that you’re dating is a little too jealous and possessive which are not signs of a healthy relationship. Not having a Facebook status for your relationship in those cases is a great way to avoid awful Facebook comments from him down the road.
This is why focusing on good relationships, and healthy relationships with a quality boyfriend who can be hugely loving towards you over time is far, far, far more important than relationship statuses on Facebook, despite the social popularity.
Now if you are feeling bad that he hasn’t changed his relationship status over there at Facebook, and you find yourself, checking it daily (or hourly!) – I want you to stop. You are creating a habit that can only cause or magnetize more negativity.
That checking-up-on-him action, plus the expectation that he announce he’s in a relationship, is all going to cause you pain. Because I promise you, if you think that little phrase on Facebook in the relationship status will bring you a greater sense of love and connection—it won’t.
Sure, you may have a “high” for a couple of days if he changes his status on Facebook to with YOU, but then whatever it is that the boyfriend ISN’T doing to make you feel secure already, will come rushing back in and you’ll need a bigger “fix” to fix the problem of him not making you feel like his girlfriend beyond a label.
Then you’ll need the ring, and if he’s not proposing, you don’t need to create more pressure on him. Guys run away over stuff like that.
My relationship advice is to play the field and date, date, date because you need to pick the guy out of the field who is the winner for YOUR life.
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